“Create your own style… let it be unique for yourself and yet identifiable for others.” ~ Anna Wintour
I have always known what my style is. I love wearing dresses and occasionally jeans and t-shirts. I worked in a corporate gig and had a fabulous collection of skirt suits, amazing blouses and a killer collection of heels. Then I had a baby and turned 30 and now I don’t know what my style is anymore. Style after kids is a tricky one that I’m sure most of us have struggled with.
It hit me when we had a wedding to go to last Friday. It was a formal wedding and I didn’t have anything to wear (well anything that fit my breastfeeding boobs anyway) so I decided to go shopping and find a dress. Do you think I could find anything? I walked three shopping centres from top to bottom and could not find a single dress. I ended up roping in my mum to come shopping with me and picked up a little black dress from Charlie Brown, some gold diana ferrari shoes and a cute Olga Berg black and gold clutch purse.
It got me thinking that my style has changed so much in the last 10 months. I now wear leggings as pants in public at least twice a week. The thought of that would have sent shivers through my body but now I find that leggings are so comfortable and easy to move around on the floor with Olivia. I look at everything I wear for it’s breastfeeding-ability. Can I pull it down, up, across for easy access without having to flash the world? Do the straps cover my wide nursing bra straps? I rarely wear dresses just for the reason that they aren’t generally easy to breastfeed in. And heels? Well, they are reserved for meetings and the odd night out with hubby these days.
I felt a bit lost when I realised how much my style had changed. I always take pride in how I dress and had been dressing that way for nearly 30 years. I had promised myself when I became a mum that I wouldn’t lose myself in motherhood. That I would still retain my identity as Sara, the woman, and not just, the mum. Because my style was so intrinsically part of who I am as a person, I thought that I had broken this promise to myself and lost who I am as a person.
But then I thought more about it. Of course things are going to change. Motherhood is so life changing an experience that of course it will merge into other areas of your life, no matter how hard you try and prevent it. I have accepted now that the challenge with this is to own it and be in control of my new style. So this week I am going to clean out my wardrobe. I am going to work out exactly what it is that my new style is. I know it involves leggings as pants, the colour pink, loose flowy tops and a few dresses and heels for nights out. I know it has changed and I’m ok with that because so have I.
How has your style changed since becoming a mum?