Never ask a mother of twins
A guest post by Rebecca Robertson from Savvy Mumma Savings
Babies are people magnets. Love or hate the attention they bring, there is no stopping the interest a little bundle in a pram attracts. So it comes as no shock that double the babies means double the new Mumma quiz. However, multiples seem to bring on a new set of questions. Just so you know, from a mum of twins, here are three things never to ask…
Are they natural?
They are not super-natural or made from mechanical parts so yes, my human babies are natural. Make no mistake, I know what people are really asking and I’m shocked they have the nerve to ask. Our twins were actually conceived via fertility treatment (IVF) so I guess they do not qualify as “natural”. On a side note, like most hopeful parents undergoing fertility treatment, we were not trying to have a multiple birth. In fact for us winning the lottery had better odds, I think I would choose my babies but let’s not allow a tired Mumma to over think that one!
I usually make a joke and brush off the question as an answer involving IVF seems to lead to a disappointed look like I have cheated the system some how. Ultimately, the conception of my children is no one else’s business. You wouldn’t stop a parent of a single baby in the street to query the method of their making.
Do twins run in your family?
Usually a thinly veiled attempt at asking the same question above. No, for the record, they do not. But as our twins are the result of two transferred embryos successfully implanting this question is not relevant. Identical twins are not hereditary either, leaving only a small percentage of people with multiples who actually have a family history of twins. What all this means; not much really.
I usually find this question is just an excuse for someone to launch into a story about someone they know, who I have never met, who has twins. Ok great, thanks for telling me.
Are they identical?
People find the answer interesting. I’m not sure why, but they do. That’s fine, with one major issue: I have Boy/Girl twins.
My daughter is stereotypically girly looking (petite with long hair and usually wearing a dress and/or pink), my son is the opposite and stereotypically boyish looking (bigger, short hair, wears blue a lot) so there is little chance of them being confused for the same sex.
At first I did not know how to answer this question without laughing or sounding rude. Now I simply say “no, one is a boy, and one is a girl” and leave them to ponder this point. For anyone playing along at home; take a moment to consider the term identical – it means the same, exactly the same. Even without a medical degree I am pretty sure most people understand the significant difference between boys and girls.
Savvy Mumma Savings is the passion project of a Melbourne Mumma to three little ones (3 years of age and under).
A part time accountant, in the not-for-profit industry, Mumma enjoys sharing money saving ideas, budget friendly toddler activities and personal experiences about parenting a young family. You can find Rebecca on Facebook or Instagram.
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