Uldouz is a a CEO, business coach, women’s advocate, mum, wife, daughter, sister, food lover and oddly enough, a spin instructor.
What was the biggest change you found within yourself when you became a mum?
I was so surprised to find that motherhood chilled me more than I ever thought it would – I had always expected the opposite! Before kids I used to me a massive control freak and everything had to be ‘just so’. I haven’t totally let of my control freak ways but I definitely don’t sweat the small stuff anymore. As long as everyone is safe and happy, I’m good.
Did you find the jump from 1 to 2 or 2 to 3 kids easier?
I found out that I was pregnant with my third when my second was only 12 weeks old so I feel like I went from one to three is one hit! But I definitely struggled with the jump from one to two. By the time my second was born, I was so used to the world revolving around the needs of my first. His naps, his activities, his mealtimes. Adding a new baby to that mix and trying to figure out the needs of two unique humans with conflicting timetables took a while for me to get my head around.
What do you think the greatest opportunities are for mums in 2018? And the greatest challenges?
We live in a time when mums have so many opportunities and resources to do so much. Regardless of whether you are a stay at home mum, a business owner, a corporate employee or somewhere in between, there are support groups and resources to help make your life easier. We’re also living in the age of women where there’s a lot of buzz around inequalities of the past, which is a very exciting thing. The flip side of that is that it’s so much harder to be present and just enjoy the experience of raising kids. We’re all so ‘busy’ and we want to make it seem like we’re living these incredible lives that it can be easy to ignore the things that matter most.
What do you wish your kids knew about you as a woman?
Great question. I’m pretty outspoken so my kids know everything I’d like them to know about me, ha! Seriously though, they will never understand how much I struggle with the need to be true to my own needs while listening to my instinct to constantly nurture and look after everyone else.
If you had one extra hour in each day, how would you spend it?
Reading or chatting with my husband.
What is the most difficult conversation you have had to have with or about your kids?
We’ve had a couple of heath scares. I’m so fortunate that for us, they were false alarms.
If you could be anywhere in the world right now, where would you be?
Somewhere still and quiet with just my family and no neighbours (or devices) in sight.
What do you wish you hadn’t wasted so much time worrying about as a mum?
Breastfeeding. I sobbed the entire way to Coles when my girlfriend took me to buy a tin of formula and I had a lactation consultant virtually in the delivery room the second time through. I wasted many precious hours in the early days hooked up to breast pumps trying to increase my supply and now I wish I’d just spent that time cuddling my babies and breathing in their glorious newborn goodness.