Mim is mother to two small children and Founder of Love from Mim and Self-Start Mums. She is passionate about living life to the full in a positive way and shares simple solutions, tips and hacks to help busy mums create more time.
What is your greatest achievement (not related to your kids) since you became a mum?
Without a doubt it would be starting my own business and, thankfully, earning enough to cover our family’s outgoings. I thought going out on my own might be something I needed to wait to do when the kids were older but I had the opportunity to start my own business two years ago and grabbed it with both hands!
What dreams do you have for your kids?
Of course it’s cliched but I want them to be happy and healthy. I want them to experience all of the great things I have in life and more – to do well at school, follow their passions, travel, fall in love and have families of their own. Ok, basically I want to be a grandma one day! More than anything, I want them to be passionate about being good people and doing the right thing by others and by themselves.
When you notice negative self-talk creeping in, what do you do?
I struggle with impostor syndrome at times regarding both motherhood and work. I’ve never particularly compared myself to others but I do struggle with occasional self-doubt about myself. Am I being a good enough mum? Am I setting a good example? I try to clear the noise and see that if my kids are happy and healthy, and know they’re loved and provided for, I’m doing a good enough job.
What do you wish you hadn’t wasted so much time worrying about as a mum?
Trying to get my first baby to nap for longer! I mean, of course I wanted her to nap for longer than 40 minutes but I wasted so much time googling and trying ALL of the methods to get her to sleep for longer. In the end, as most babies do, she just slept longer one day. Maybe my methods helped, maybe she just did it in her own time. But I lost sleep myself trying to find ways to get her to sleep that didn’t work! I also wish I hadn’t spent time with competitive mothers in the early months – what time and energy sucks they are!
What are the words you live by?
“This too shall pass” is the main one – that parenting mantra of old. But it’s true and, whilst you might not think it at the time, a lot of difficult phases of parenthood do eventually pass.
As a recent breast cancer survivor, I also try to “live one day at a time” and not worry too much about the future. It’s a difficult one but helps when I feel anxious about the future of my family.
If you could be anywhere in the world right now, where would you be?
Ooh at a villa in Bali with my husband and kids – swimming in the pool, reading books, going for walks, eating delicious food, sleeping like babies. Ok, now I’m being silly!
What do you want your kids to say about you at your 100th birthday?
That I was always there for them and made them feel happy, safe and loved. At the same time, I want them to feel that I always challenged them to pursue their passions and be good people.
If you could change one thing about the world to make it a better place for your kids, what would that be?
Terrorism and war terrifies me – I want world peace. I want my children, and all children, to feel safe anywhere in the world.