Mother to three gorgeous girls (6, 3 and 1), Wife to one wonderfully supportive husband, ex LVMH Marketer with extensive wine experience (mostly drinking it) and the founder of Mum Society with a vision to transform the maternity leave experience and the workplace value and flexibility for all mums.

Did you find the jump from 1 to 2 or 2 to 3 kids easier?

What I believe is that with one, you are trying so very hard to do it ‘right’. With two, you still have enough hands and for most, there are two of you to help. With three, you realise very quickly that you are outnumbered and you absolutely can’t do it all or have it all so it’s almost more enjoyable not trying so hard to strive for anything more than ‘close enough’.

What is your greatest achievement (not related to your kids) since you became a mum?

Launching Mum Society.

I was made redundant over email in the final weeks of my first Maternity Leave and came up with the concept of Mum Society. In just five years, I’ve hosted 4500 mums at brunch with the most inspiring of speakers and placed 400 in flexible jobs so really, it’s exceeded all expectations. I feel incredibly proud of the impact I am able to have on so many other mums that are firmly in the trenches but also of the example I am setting for my girls.

If you could go back to the day before you became a mum and tell yourself one thing, what would that be?

Pre-order the epidural 🙂

If we are talking the day before, well the birth doesn’t matter, it’s all about what type of parent you want to be and that your wellbeing is far more important than you will realise.

I would tell myself to really enjoy that first year and totally and completely focus on me because it’s easy in comparison to having more than one child and you just don’t know it until you are out the other side.

What do you think the greatest opportunities are for mums in 2018? And the greatest challenges?

Flexible working arrangements are really at the forefront of discussion. I feel that we are on the precipice of change about how mums are perceived in the workplace and the return to work process.

The challenges are the accessibility (COST) of quality childcare, the perception around being a ‘‘mum’ and honestly, I think social media is our biggest challenge, realising that just because there is a pretty picture on Facebook or Instagram doesn’t mean another mum has it nailed. NONE OF US HAVE IT SORTED!

Kylie Ostle family insights

What is the most difficult conversation you have had to have with or about your kids?

That my daughter wasn’t selected for show group. It’s her dream to be a superhero at night and a singer by day. It is actually a dance group and she took her guitar to audition so it really wasn’t going to end well. She cried for 2 days and it broke my heart. Resilience huh!

How have you nurtured your friendships since you had kids?

With a business and three kids, it’s my friendships that have taken a back seat. I’m sad that I don’t see them more and have more down time with them but something has to give while you are doing the crazy juggle and almost all completely understand. I try to nab a phone chat with my nearest and dearest when I can and often, it feels like a night out.

What do you wish you had done more of before you had kids?

Travel so much more as a couple and we both wish that we lived somewhere ‘fun’ instead of making such sensible financial decisions.

If you could change one thing about the world to make it a better place for your kids, what would that be?

ONE?! There are so many things I would like to change but with three daughters, equal pay and opportunities for them.

Hospitality should be like the national service between 15-18. I think it would have a really positive impact on manners!

 

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