Kristen is a mum of two and passionate supporter of women and mums. She is co-founder of the Sydney based Kinder Cafe, a cafe designed to meet family’s needs with activities for the kids, workspace for the parents and not to mention great food and coffee.
What do you think the greatest opportunities are for mums in 2018? And the greatest challenges?
I think that we’re in the midst of a great shift for women and in turn mothers globally. Where we are pushing for equality in all areas, where we are expecting equal space, where we are daring to say I want the job, I want the children and I deserve equal…. (well everything).
This is our greatest opportunity and our greatest challenge. We can’t be content with close enough or narrowing the gap or nearly there. It’s exciting to be a part of the shift and the not so quiet movement where strong women are really challenging the status quo but for the benefit of those who feel silenced, those who aren’t brave and future generations we must keep pushing and rising to the challenge.
What do you wish your kids knew about you as a woman?
I wish they understood how much I want to make them proud of me. Proud as a mother and a person. I also wish they knew that I’m a resilient and strong woman and I hope to instil those traits in them as they serve me well and are undervalued.
What do you wish you hadn’t wasted so much time worrying about as a mum?
I’m not sure how to answer this. I worry about different things at different times depending on what is happening or triggering. I worried when my daughter was 2 and didn’t speak (she does now), I worried that my son was going to choke on something when he was little because everything went in his mouth (he’s past that); these were warranted fears at the time but hindsight is a beautiful thing. I try not to dwell too much, most moments are just that… moments, but in the thick of the moment it’s hard.
If you had one extra hour in each day, how would you spend it?
Probably working (hang head in shame)
If you could be anywhere in the world right now, where would you be?
I’m very fond of Port Douglas, I’ve had some wonderful holidays there pre and post children so I’d say there.
If you could invite any 3 mothers, real or fictional, living or dead, to dinner, who would they be and why?
My Mum: who died when I was 17. She was an amazing business woman, friend to have and of course mother. She lit up a room, she had a presence that couldn’t be explained and an energy that was contagious. People wanted to be around her.
Hillery Clinton: I love her, I think she has a brilliant mind, is fabulously articulate, refuses to be silenced and because of this some would like to silence her. She has convictions and will forever be one of the great feminist trailblazers of our time.
Jane Caro; who is a social commentator and public figure. Jane is a very vocal advocate of public schooling and a fierce feminist. She’s incredibly witty and intelligent and uses her privilege and ability to be heard to speak for those less fortunate or without the same stage to fight for gender and socio economic equality.
What do you want your kids to say about you at your 100th birthday?
My mum did everything with integrity and fought hard for what she believed in. She was fiercely determined and worked hard. She loved us with every inch of her being.
She instilled in us the notion of just doing your best and no one would ever be disappointed, you don’t need to be the best unless of course that is your best.
What do you wish you had done more of before you had kids?
Purchased more real estate (ha ha)