Failing to plan is planning to fail and it is the same when it comes to goals. If you don’t have clarity on what you want in life and where you want to get to, how will you know when you get there?
Mums so often let their own goals fall away as we focus our attention to our family. It becomes about the day to day (or minute to minute) rather than the big picture of where you are heading and how you are going to get there.
But you deserve more. You deserve to work towards the future you want for yourself and your family. You need goals and interests to fulfil your passions and desires. Whether it is personal goals or career goals or even goals for your own business, the principles are the same.
Start with belief in yourself
When you became a mum, did you feel your confidence drop? You go from a thriving career where you probably know the answer to most questions you are asked each day to knowing absolutely nothing. You suffer from baby brain, some days you can’t even manage to have a shower and brush your hair.
Jay Crisp Crow, copywriter and winner of the 2016 National Business Brilliance Business and Life Clarity award says, “For half my life I believed I couldn’t make a living as a writer. Now I write every day, make other women in business lots of money, and win awards doing it!”
Start with belief in yourself. Know that you are capable of achieving great things and are worthy of time and success.
Define your success
“Figure out your own version of success. Bah humbug to the femmepreneurs who say you “have to” dream big/risk it all/leap without looking. What does success look like to you? Is it working 20 hours a week for double the income? (Mine too!) Is it a side hustle? Is it working part-time and running a business and studying? Scrap what anyone else thinks and figure out your own clear path,” says Crisp Crow.
Kristy Greenshields, Co-Founder and Co-Director Resilient Leaders Foundation was the winner of the 2015 Life and Business Clarity award. Her definition of success came about in a slightly different way.
“When we decided upon the vision for our foundation in 2009, which is “To provide young people and their families with the skills, resources and structures to contribute to a more sustainable humanity”, we had no idea how we would do that. All we knew was that we needed to be clear, and we needed to LIVE it every day. To live this vision myself, I had to first look within myself, and within my family unit. Because it starts with me, and with MY young people. As I allow myself to by guided by this vision, and see it in my life every day, I attract more and more of its greatness. As a result, every aspect of my life is much greater than my mind could have imagined 10 years ago, and I am the director of a national charity, which lives and breathes this vision.”
Protect your goals
Once you know what your goals are and what you want to achieve in life. Protect them as fiercely as you protect anything else that is special to you. Sure there will be setbacks along the way and bumps in the road but don’t allow anyone to talk you out of your dreams. You know where you are headed and you know why you are on this journey so be true to that.
“Make time for you. Time for white space, reflection and clarity. In such a busy world it is so easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing. By making ‘space and time’ for yourself you are able to stay truly aligned to your version of success and happiness in business and in your life,” advises Amanda Freeman, Reiki Master at Inspire Natural Therapies and finalist Life and Business Clarity award 2017
Karen Hollenbach of Think Bespoke and the 2015 winner of the Life and Business Clarity award adds, “Create clear boundaries between your work time and your family time. It’s okay to say no to new opportunities if they do not align to your values or business plans.”
Small steps to big dreams
Once you have the clarity of your goals and dreams it is about taking small steps towards achieving them. If you can do one thing each day, or each week that gets you closer to where you want to be you will feel progress and like you are making changes. Don’t focus on the stumbles along the way, just about putting one foot in front of the other, all the while keeping your eyes on the prize.
We’ll leave the final word to Jay Crisp Crow… “Knowing what I’ve got, where I want to go, and how to get there has changed my life. I spent 25 years battling a chronic illness, being unhappily employed, creatively stifled, and barely earning enough to keep the kids in school and fed. Every. Single. Day was a struggle. It’s still hard work, but the payoff – both creatively and financially – is so worth it.”
If you know a mum who runs her own business and has incredible clarity in her direction, perhaps you might consider nominating her for the National Business Brilliance Awards! Kid Magazine is a proud partner of the awards and love seeing mums getting excited about being recognised for all their hard work.
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